Relationships
"Social conditioning teaches us gross misconceptions about relationships and especially marriage. Marriage is viewed as a final destination, a lifetime bonding, when for most people it’s nothing of the sort. Marriage is simply a continuation of our experience of human relationships. It’s a middle piece, not an ending or a beginning. Realize that no human relationship is ever permanent. Whether it ends in divorce, separation, or death, it will eventually end. It’s only a matter of time. Every beginning flows towards an ultimate ending, and every ending flows into new beginnings. Instead of fighting this cycle, learn to enjoy the ride without becoming overly attached to the past. Simply enjoy what you have in the present, even if you’re alone, and then focus your intentions on what you’d like to experience next.
On March 29 my wife and I will celebrate our 8-year anniversary, and we’ve been in a committed relationship for almost 12 years now. Every year is different. Our relationship is constantly reinventing itself. Sometimes the main component of our relationship is our friendship, and other times we’re passionate lovers (my personal favorite). Sometimes we come together to achieve mutual goals like parenting our kids, and other times we allow space between us to work on our individual pursuits. Sometimes we couldn’t be more compatible, and other times we frustrate the hell of out each other. Will our human relationship last forever? Of course not. Like any other marriage, it will eventually end in death, divorce, or separation. We may die separately, we may die together, we may eventually grow in different directions. But the realization that our human relationship is temporary makes our present moments together that much more precious. No human relationship is endowed with the privilege of permanence. Non-human relationships perhaps… but while you’re here on earth, your earthbound relationships are just as mortal as the flesh they inhabit."
Steve Pavlina
Keeping Perspective When You Have a Really, Really Big Problem
On March 29 my wife and I will celebrate our 8-year anniversary, and we’ve been in a committed relationship for almost 12 years now. Every year is different. Our relationship is constantly reinventing itself. Sometimes the main component of our relationship is our friendship, and other times we’re passionate lovers (my personal favorite). Sometimes we come together to achieve mutual goals like parenting our kids, and other times we allow space between us to work on our individual pursuits. Sometimes we couldn’t be more compatible, and other times we frustrate the hell of out each other. Will our human relationship last forever? Of course not. Like any other marriage, it will eventually end in death, divorce, or separation. We may die separately, we may die together, we may eventually grow in different directions. But the realization that our human relationship is temporary makes our present moments together that much more precious. No human relationship is endowed with the privilege of permanence. Non-human relationships perhaps… but while you’re here on earth, your earthbound relationships are just as mortal as the flesh they inhabit."
Steve Pavlina
Keeping Perspective When You Have a Really, Really Big Problem
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